A Childhood Autism Meltdown, Struggling to be understood

Uncategorized Nov 04, 2018

I was at the Boardwalk in Santa Cruz with my wife this past weekend. We were sitting down eating my all-time favorite junk amusement park food, funnel cake. To the side and a little behind me I started hearing a disturbance. I turned and looked, it was a boy in the 7 - 9 year old range and what I assume to be his mom.

I missed the start which my wife saw from her side of the table. Another boy had come up and the kid I saw was all set to punch him in the face. My wife said the first boy had that distinctive scary 100% focused level of emotion on his face that she knows all too well from my meltdowns over the year. It is a look of every bit of energy being released in total rage.

The other boy left, the first boy began verbal outbursts to his mom that packed all of his intensity into the words. I recognized this as it is a meltdown pattern I have struggled with. I listened in, it was obvious to me he was having with I call the "straw that broke the camel's back" type meltdown....

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10 Tips for the co-worker of the Talented and Challenging Tech Worker

Uncategorized Oct 05, 2018

In my expanding series of 10 Tips infographics this one is intended for the neurotypical (normal non-tech/non-geek people that are the majority of humans) that has to work with the Talented & Challenging Tech Worker (nice way to say geeks like me). I think these tips will give some unique insight into the hugely different way our minds work. The biggest take away is we are literal, logical, and see things only from our perspective. I like to say, It isn't that I don't care about your feelings, but that they don't even enter my thinking.


CLICK HERE to download a letter sized PDF of this tip sheet.

If you find these tips to be helpful, contact Neurodiverse Communication Specialist Tim Goldstein to learn how he can help your organization to understand and learn how to work with this hard to hire but critical segment.

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Author, blogger, Facebook Live interviewer, speaker, Julie Hornok and her new book "United in Autism"

books Sep 09, 2018

I was lucky enough to meet Julie Hornok ( www.juliehornok.com ) when LinkedIn suggested her as a connection and I clicked the button. I have become a firm believer that fate puts the right people in your path, but you have to take the action to claim fate's prize. I consider knowing Julie one of fate's prizes.

That initial connection led to corresponding and then to Julie interviewing me ( link to my media page of the interview ). I wasn't sure how the connection would work as my specialty is as a Neurodiverse Communication Specialist concentrating on the Autism at Work front. Julie's focus is toward moms that have children with Autism Spectrum Disorder ASD. Julie showed her innovative thinking by explaining her feeling that parents would benefit from hearing my easily digestible explanations of how think about and view things as an adult with Asperger's. We went with it and Julie was right! Parents found the peak into my thought processes and how I express myself in...

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10 Advanced Management Tips for the Talented and Challenging Tech Worker & everyone else!

autism at work managing Sep 09, 2018

Managing the neurodiverse, technical, "A"SD Lister, or autistic employee can be a challenge to any manager. These advanced management tips will drastically improve your results. Even better, the same advanced approaches also improve your management of all employees.

Give a few of these tips a try regardless of the type of employees you manage and be ready to see some amazing results!


CLICK HERE to download a letter sized PDF of this tip sheet.

If you find these tips to be helpful, contact Neurodiverse Communication Specialist Tim Goldstein to learn how he can help your organization Engage the Tech Worker and reduce the turnover in this hard to hire segment.

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Tim's results: vocal training to overcome his Asperger's lack of emotion in his voice and words

Uncategorized May 23, 2018

Thought you might enjoy seeing how my speaking voice has improved since I began training with Roger Love. Here is a sample before I started, one after learning at World Greatest Speaker Training, and finally an excerpt from a class I taught at Cornell University after a couple years of training. Hope you can notice the difference.

This video was done as an intro to a beta program I am working on with Roger to help people with Asperger's, autism, ASD, HFA, neurodiverse, or what ever you want to call it, learn to put the proper emotional sound in their voice for many common situations.

It is nice now having a voice my wife likes and no one mistakes my excited for angry any more.

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Tim's Reading List

Uncategorized May 07, 2018

My intention is to list the books I have gotten a lot out of. I will try to categorize them and write a sentence or two about it. If you click on the title, you will be taken to the books page on Amazon.

General - A great place for everyone to start

Neurotribes: The Legacy of Autism and the Future of Neurodiversity

By Steve Silberman - The ultimate bible which explains the history and range of this condition we call autism. 

If you are looking to get up to speed on autism, how ASD, Aspergers, HFA, and they are on the spectrum fit together and why it took so many decades to even realize there was a high functioning verbal version. This book covers many examples of high functioning individuals with Aspergers who have changed the course of the world. This book can do the same with you and give you a holistic understanding of autism in adults.


High-Functioning Autism and Difficult Moments: Practical Solutions for Reducing Meltdowns

 By Brenda Smith Myles, PhD...

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Subject Matter Advisor to Uptimize, the Digital Distribution Neurodiversity Training Specialist

For those of you familiar with the Autism at Work, you have most likely heard the name Uptimize. For those of you who are new to the movement to offer the neurodiverse the same opportunities as the neurotypical worker, Uptimize may be a resource you need.

Uptimize is the world's premier source for just in time, micro training modules on integrating the neurodiverse and autistic into the workplace. Their training is packaged into "toolkits" which focus on specific roles and what they need to know to work with or lead the neurodiverse. While others including myself offer a range of digital training, Uptimize has done a tremendous job creating well balanced training in the micro learning style which is now in vogue. Their training is a perfect solution for both the organization looking to develop and retain talent as well as groups wanting to create an end to end neurodiverse employment process.

I was recently asked to join Uptimize as a Subject Matter Expert on their advisor...

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Very nice short article regarding integrating the autistic in the workplace

Uncategorized Mar 26, 2018

Very nice and informative article about integrating the autistic and neurodiverse into the workplace by Susanne M. Bruyère, Ph.D., CRC who is the director of the illustrious ILR College of Cornell University.


It is not that long and very much worth the time to read it.

Great work Susanne!!

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I Think My Husband/Wife Has Aspergers/Autism/ASD & It is Destroying Our Marriage

relationships Mar 15, 2018

Karen, my wife, and I had the opportunity to join Roger Love on stage at his Voice of Success Event event. We primarily spoke about how Roger's training has helped us, particularly in our relationship. With me having Asperger's and Karen being a neurotypical, autistic traits were a major focus as they amplify all the common relationship problems and add many additional challenges.

While I focus on Autism at Work and bridging the tech/business communication gap, as a Neurodiverse Communication Specialist and with the experience of our 3+ decade marriage, relationship questions frequently come up. The most frequent question is "I think my spouse has ASD/Autism/Asperger's and I don't know what to do." Funny thing is the person asking assumes this is an unusual question. I can assure you, it is a very common question so don't think you are facing a unique situation.

 At this event I was again asked this questions. I figured it was about time I put together a post explaining a...

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Review: An Employers Guide to Managing Professionals on the Autism Spectrum

An Employers Guide to Managing Professionals on the Autism Spectrum

Book by: Marcia Scheiner of Integrate with Joan Bogden

For anyone managing a logic leaning, frequently neurodiverse technical worker, this book is required reading. For anyone else, it is an excellent lesson in good old fashion, face to face management techniques plus a training about the neurodiverse rolled into one. What I learned from Marcia’s straight forward explanations and examples amazed me. This is particularly surprising considering I have Asperger’s and over 20 years of management experience. I applaud Marcia for the body of knowledge she has taken the effort to compile in an easy to read book.

 Marcia begins by pointing out that 1/3 of children with Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD) graduate college and the vast majority are unable to find a job. The problem isn’t these individuals’ skills, but the employers lack of understanding of the neurodiverse worker. While these...

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